DECACS, Inc. and all its Initiatives

Archive for the ‘love’ Category

The Tiny Window

A lesson in love, cooperation, fear, trust, ingenuity, inventiveness, resolve and determination. What you may ask?? I just watched my next door neighbors’ three young children come home from school and discover they are locked out of the house. (Now how come not one of them had a key, is another story, lol) They appear to be 12 (girl), 10 (boy) and about 6(boy) years of age. 
Watching the elder brother take the lead and open the basement window to climb in, only to find out, that while he may have been the one to open the window, he was not small enough to get through it. He must have attempted doing it several times, from going head first to feet first. 
The others coached, laughed and watched his every attempt to get through the window but he simply could not figure out how to get his backsides through it.
Then sister takes the lead, she seems completely animated the entire time, giving instructions, fussing, and basically being a female in a stressful situation where she has to get the men to follow her idea. Her idea, “let little man go through,” he can fit. 
Finally, big brother, after several failed attempts, IN A HUFF, goes along with the idea, snatches little man’s glasses off and tells him to do it. Little man is clearly terrified of the idea. What if I fall? What if I break something? Who is gonna catch me?? 
Big brother says, never mind and attempts to do it again with no luck. It is a tight squeeze and his hindparts just won’t make it, no matter how much he twists and turns. Then big sister stands behind big brother and measures her own hindparts. Hmmmmm. Maybe a bit smaller. She tries, it quite a few times, and while it may be a bit smaller??? she is not the same shape as her brother, long torso, just can’t seem to maneuver that torso through that tiny window opening. All the while they take turns running around to the other side of the building. Must be a bigger window around there to climb through.
Again and again, they negotiate and strategize and maneuver and attempt to figure out how can they get into the house.
Finally at long last, little man gets up the courage. It seemed to never occur to them to hold him as he goes through the tiny window opening. Something so obvious did not appear obvious to them at all. 
Little man, took off his glasses for the 4th time, tried going in head first, then feet first. It seemed his nervousness was dissipating as he pushed himself in little by little. After watching this for a few seconds, big brother has a great idea, maybe I’ll help him! He rushes over and holds little man by the head!! Wow, I wondered to my self, why didn’t they just hold his hands and reassure him that he wouldn’t get hurt??
In an instant, little man is in the house. He runs to the front door in another instant and opens the door. He lets his big brother and sister in to cheers and yells, little man, is the hero of the day!!!! 
I remember as a child and even an adult being locked out of the house. I remember pushing my own tiny son through the opening of a window. I remember my children telling me how they climbed onto the roof and got themselves in. But this is the absolute first time I saw little people do it on their own. I basically would have been of no service to them, they don’t know me, I am new to the neighborhood and most certainly they were taught not to speak to strangers.
It was an absolute pleasure to watch them work it out, and then wonder, how come we big bad adults can’t do the same? What is wrong with us that, if we have a common goal, we cannot negotiate in a way that everyone is helped and no one is hurt. Why can’t we take the risk of trying something new, it may be a little scary, but if the new plan works, try it.
Then I thought to myself, I hope and pray they grow up to be the same kind of adults I saw them as children. And then I hope they grow up and work in a important position at the UN, and maybe they could bring some of their talents and help this world be a better place, because seriously, ADULTS ARE NOT MAKING IT HAPPEN!
Update: The next day the young people arrive home again, to a locked door. Little man goes straight for the window. But alas, there was no need, they had the key to get in!

Category:

challenges, children, cooperation, determination, dilemma, fear, ingenuity, inventiveness, life, love, resolve, youth

Mother’s Worst Nightmare: Sons Killed on the Way to Graduation Ceremony

NANA’S COMMENTARY:

This story creates a shift in our self pitying paradigm and shakes us to the reality that we must not tarry to long. We must move outside of our mono-focused “all about me” world and “reach out and touch somebody’s” hand.

It may sound weird but that’s what this story did for me. It broke my focus on my own worries and pushed me to send “Healing Love & Light” vibrations to this family. Life & Death are both equally strong aspects of the experiential soul, however, it is how we engage the lessons and challenges that define our relationship to “Source”, “All In All”, “Creation” or whatever you want to call “God”.

The journey of life is filled with many twists & turns, ups and downs. Sometimes another’s sorrow, another’s loss is a wake-up call for others. Sometimes, as we sit bemoaning our individual fate; stressing about how to get out of a particular situation and grieving over our own losses; something like this happens and it seems to jolt us out of our own misery to acknowledge another’s sorrow. We are given a moment in which we can release our own sorrow and turn our attention and support to another.

Instinctively, we run towards another offering them compassion. This is healing. This is true concern for our fellow human being. This is true Love. Like a smack in the face, it wakes us up to the bigger issues we  must confront living on this planet. If this smack can move us outside of our own mono-focused realities; then maybe we could spread that around to all those who suffer on this planet. Maybe we can be more pro-active in being gentler, more caring, more conscientious and less willing to allow senseless aggression/violence against our planet and the life-forms that inhabit it.

As living soul beings, we are teachers and students on the path of life.  

Mother’s Worst Nightmare: Sons Killed on the Way to Graduation Ceremony as She Waits in the Audience

June 13, 2013 | Filed under: BizTechNews | Posted by: 
BrothersKilled

By Yolanda Spivey
WINDSOR, NC- A mother’s worst nightmare came into fruition as she sat in the audience of her 17 year old son’s graduation only to be pulled away from the ceremony to hear devastating news.  Her two sons, 17 year old Deonta and 24 year old Anthony had been in a fatal car accident on their way to the ceremony.
Sandra Williams McGlone, and a host of other family members, were waiting to see her son Deonta Whitaker walk across the stage at his Bertie High School graduation to get his diploma, but instead she was told of the tragedy.
“I just can’t describe it.  It’s unbelievable.  It’s like it’s a dream that I want to wake up from,” said Williams-McGlone.
The family is devastated by this tragic news. Deonta’s aunt, Tamare Cherry told WBTW News 13, “This is such a difficult time for us.  It was just devastating.  Our minds were all over the place.”
Highway Patrol troopers said that the older brother Anthony was driving the younger brother Deonta to the high school graduation ceremony when he lost control of his vehicle and crashed into trees on the road they were traveling.  It is suspected that both young men died on impact.
The mother, Williams-McGlone stated that Deonta was headed to Elizabeth City State University and he was a scholar.  He received numerous scholarships to attend the University.  The oldest son Anthony was a graduate of Bertie County High School and was employed by UTI Global Logistic as a Technician. He leaves behind a 3 year old daughter.
Deonta’s best friend accepted his high school diploma on behalf of Deonta and his family.
The brother’s funerals will be held at the very same high school they were headed to.  They will be laid to rest in Ahoskie, N.C.    

Category:

challenges, children, compassion, death, graduation, grief, healing, life, love, parents, planet earth, tragedy

Frankenstorm Sandy & Compassion

Just one reason I’m voting for him…. compassion.
President Obama hugs North Point Marina owner Donna Vanzant as he tours damage done by Hurricane Sandy in Brigantine, New Jersey (Larry Downing/Reuters) 10-31-2012

 
Is it me, or is it just American exceptionalism?
Do American lives, damage to their homes and lands, mean more, or is worth more than any other life on the planet?
 My heart goes out to those who suffered during the so-called “Frankenstorm” Sandy that hit the East Coast.
Being an empathetic person, I feel deeply their sadness and am reminded of my blessings as I only experienced a short power outage.
But Jeeez, are we talking about some one who joked about predator drones? Someone who helped in destroying the entire country, infrastructure, social structure and political structure of Libya?

Aren’t we talking about someone who blasted Osama bin Laden’s gory shot up face and the detestable defeat of Muamar Qaddafi?

Aren’t we talking about someone who dropped bombs by predator drones on wedding parties, and innocents who happen to be in the area?


Aren’t we talking about someone who has increased sanctions on Iran to cripple their economy, while giving millions and millions of dollars to Israel those dollars used to destroy the Homeland of the Palestinians?


Winter Soldier: Iraq & Afghanistan (Part 2) Listen to the Truth not the lies you are told on American Jewish TV.

Are we talking about the same administration that has a kill (Disposition) list?
Aren’t we talking about the same administration that sleeps at night while children lie in hospitals with their arms and legs blown off and their parents killed?
Yes, it is a sorrowful thing that happened with this Super Storm.
But how come we Americans can have soooo much compassion for the loss of our fellow citizens and in the same breath support war, invasion, incursion and destruction of another’s homeland without a whimper and continue to support US imperialism around the world.
How is that possible that these two types of hearts can exist in the same body?
No, I am not impressed with fly overs, walks on the ground and hugs for suffering country men and women.
I will be impressed when there is a global acknowledgement, that human beings live all over this planet, they hurt, they suffer, they grieve.
That our planet does not deserve the treatment it receives from our over consumption.
I will be impressed when the humanity blanket spreads across the entire planet, and when I hear the administration say to all those they have taken life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness away from,

WE ARE SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS, WE ARE THERE FOR YOU, WE WILL NOT LEAVE YOU, CALL US WHENEVER YOU NEED TO! 

Say what you will, this is the real truth and so often folks get caught up in the superfluous photo opts and loose sight of the bigger picture.

Category:

compassion, drones, elections, love, Muamar Qadaffi, palestine, photo opt, politics, Super Storm Sandy 2012, war, Winter Soldier